The struggle is almost same…

Film Industry, advertising, editing, content writing, drawing cartoons, directing, acting, singing, designing, art direction, illustrating, screenplay writing, photography, food exploring, travelling, anchoring…sounds lucrative? Yeah, one factor is common in all of them! A tinge of glamour. The glamour we like to see and deal with from a distance.

Initially, they are not taken seriously. Is this a ‘safe’ profession for girls? How much do you earn? Are you sure about the prospects? You are working your ass off for this? When will you settle properly? Is this the time to get back home? And girls face a bigger and more serious question. Will your in-laws be fine with this profession?

In your mid 20s, when most of your friends are settled financially and enjoying ‘happily ever after’ phase sharing their ‘say cheeze’ and ‘awwww’ moments on social media, you are skipping lunch to meet the deadline. You have no time for mushy talk and romantic candle light dinners. You prefer to come back home, eat whatever lying on your plate and go to bed dead tired.

You suddenly realize you have distanced yourself from your closest relatives and best of friends. The worse, you cannot relate yourself with them anymore. Even if you meet them in reunions, functions or gatherings, you feel staying home would have been a better idea. Being creative, your mind is always looking for inspirations and you end up observing little things and hover over the fact for the rest of the time. Your jokes either fall too flat to make any sense, too sharp to understand or too sarcastic to laugh on the face! You choose to become a loner…well…you don’t have a choice!

And if you are single…God save you! Of course, in the course of chasing dreams you hardly have noticed anyone. Now that you are somewhat in peace with professional life, it’s time for war, revolt and unrest in your personal life. Your timeline is full of sarcastic quotes, your preference to food over men, how much you are in love with your ‘me time’ which you are not going to ruin for anyone, and you are in ‘no nonsense’ mood always. Admit it, you are desperately trying to convince the world you are your own Super-heroine and don’t need anyone beside you. You are ‘happily single’! You have set high standards for men; so high that even you fail to understand what you really want! You are waiting for your knight in shining armor but hold a second, he may have approached you and been friendzoned! You have mastered the art of projecting yourself somewhat snob, arrogant, reckless kind and show your difficult side first. You are in no mood to impress anyone.

But secretly, you daydream a lot. About everything. You have started saving money for your little wishes. You read recipes to improve your culinary skills, you water the plant in your garden, you brainstorm to decorate your living room, you look for perfect curtains to match with the colour of your room, you try to become a little organized. There! There! You are stepping into womanhood, girl!

You have learnt to let go, move on, suppressing feelings in the deepest corner of your heart, put a happy mask on all the time. Everyday you tell yourself don’t worry, it will be healed. You will again be able to fall in love, laugh at silly jokes, make a wish with a shooting star, trust with your eyes closed, hold a hand firm enough, live without worries, decide without any doubt in heart. And probably looking for the man who can see you through your mask. Who will introduce you to your own self you left far behind while growing up…